Be That Change!

I was spoken to on Friday.

And I’m not going to say by who so don’t ask me.

Don’t do it.

This person communicated with me in a fair but stern manner regarding the way that I had stood my ground on an issue I felt passionately about.

They discussed my personality and my exuberant nature, my ability to influence others, and my drive to evoke change.

They cautioned that during the moment I was standing my ground some might not have agreed with me; with my behaviour.

It was suggested that perhaps in the future, should I take issue with a topic being discussed, I could hold a conversation one on one with the person who brought it up.

Away from the group.

It was mentioned that I should attempt to go with the flow on some subjects and not “rock the boat” so much.

Not bring so much attention to the subject matter or myself.

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And then it was my turn to rebut.

I explained that I did not agree with the subject matter that was presented to me.

That the way to evoke change was not through “going with the flow” and ignore problems or issues, it was to discuss it in a group, with the people that were going to be affected.

Involving others, bringing attention to the problem, and letting each other know where it can be improved is how to create change.

We are all capable of it but so many people fear it.

They are afraid of the process, the meaning, and what it brings.

I don’t.

I will always be the voice for people who can’t or won’t speak up.

I will always take that risk.

And I will ALWAYS rock the boat.

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58 Responses to Be That Change!
  1. Alison@Mama Wants This
    February 20, 2012 | 6:32 am

    Go, you!!! I’m so proud of you for standing your ground.

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 4:16 pm

      Thank you Alison!
      I’m so glad I have this space to vent and get support.

  2. Nic
    February 20, 2012 | 9:16 am

    As always I am proud of you! I wish I had more of that assertiveness and rock the boat personality. You know where I come from and this makes me proud! If anything in the past week I’ve learnt that you can’t change your values or who you are or what you stand up for- not for anyone especially a job! I love your spirit about things that matter! Don’t ever let someone stop you!!! Xoxo Nic

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 4:16 pm

      I think you did a great job recently by standing up for yourself!

  3. Teresa
    February 20, 2012 | 10:10 am

    Good for you! Many times, I don’t speak up because everyone seems to be on one side and I’m on the other. Thanks for the reminder that my voice matters.

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 4:15 pm

      I tend to be the devil’s advocate in most situations.
      Your voice ALWAYS matters!

  4. Lindsay
    February 20, 2012 | 11:45 am

    Honestly? I’m surprised that anyone that knows you would have the nerve to approach you about being ‘you’.
    They obviously don’t ‘know’ you.

    This is one of 122,448 reasons why I love you girl.
    You’re bullshit-free… just like me.
    xo

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 4:14 pm

      I was surprised that this person said something too but I guess they thought it was out of character for me.
      What?
      Obviously they don’t know me very well.

  5. Galit Breen
    February 20, 2012 | 3:52 pm

    Love this so, so very much!

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 4:13 pm

      Thank you Galit…
      I needed to vent lol

  6. Jessica
    February 20, 2012 | 4:04 pm

    This made me smile. The world needs more women, more people, like you.

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 4:13 pm

      Thank you Jessica!
      xoxoxoxo

  7. Jessica
    February 20, 2012 | 4:22 pm

    Good for you! So many people are afraid to stand up especially in front of a group.

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 4:12 pm

      Many people are followers.. I understand that.
      Not me.. no way.
      Hope you enjoy Blissdom!

  8. Elaine
    February 20, 2012 | 4:25 pm

    Rock that boat, girl!! I always admire people who do. :)

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 4:11 pm

      Thank you Elaine! I’m glad you do.. some people have a serious problem with it.

  9. My Inner Chick
    February 20, 2012 | 5:38 pm

    ((((I will always be the voice for people who can’t or won’t speak up.)))

    Yesssss. Never Stop!

    You. Rock.

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 4:09 pm

      Thank you!
      Love this comment!

  10. Kimberly
    February 20, 2012 | 8:20 pm

    I am shocked that someone would have even said that to you.
    Poop on them and in their yards so they step on said poop while trying to retrieve the newspaper.
    Stand firm woman. Don’t let other people censor you.
    WWCND
    (What would Chuck Norris Do)

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 4:07 pm

      I gave the person a round house kick to the gullet in my mind.

  11. Sarcasm Goddess
    February 20, 2012 | 9:36 pm

    So proud of you for standing up for yourself and for standing your ground! You rock!

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 4:06 pm

      Thanks SG

  12. Boingerhead
    February 20, 2012 | 10:21 pm

    Well said!

    Re: the mystery speaker…sometimes I fantasize about offering a service whereby a small girl wearing Mary Janes kicks the shins of ‘people like that’ for a reasonable fee.

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 3:55 pm

      Oh that is a really good idea!

  13. Kimberly
    February 21, 2012 | 12:07 am

    Good for you! I’m proud of you for standing your ground.

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 3:54 pm

      And I’m proud of YOU for standing up for yourself!

  14. Kenya G. Johnson
    February 21, 2012 | 8:40 am

    Good girl. I like boat rockers!

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 3:54 pm

      YAY!!
      And I LOVE your quotes!

  15. Jenn@Fox in the City
    February 21, 2012 | 8:50 am

    Yahoo Leighann! I am proud of you. Back in the day, when I had a backbone, I could have stood my ground but that is a struggle now. After reading this I feel myslf sitting up a little bit taller and there is a wee bit more confidence . . . thanks.
    Jenn
    P.S. Some of the sitting up taller may have to do with the fact that I am sitting on a rather large ball rather than my chair but I am going to chalk it up to how awesome you are.

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 3:51 pm

      I’m seriously considering getting a ball for my office.
      Fer reals.

  16. Bruna
    February 21, 2012 | 9:05 am

    Good for you Mama. I think it’s awesome you speak up. It’s something I struggle with but am working to improve on in my own life. Rock that boat!

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 3:50 pm

      I think you are pretty special!
      I love that you are always working on improving yourself.

  17. Barbara
    February 21, 2012 | 9:12 am

    Way to go! I think too often people “go with the flow”. I always speak my mind which backfires eventually, but at least I never compromise myself or my beliefs!

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 3:50 pm

      I’m so glad that you speak your mind.. even if it does backfire. Good for you!

  18. imperfectmomma
    February 21, 2012 | 9:21 am

    Thats awesome you sticking up like that! So proud of your awesomeness!

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 3:49 pm

      Thank you.. you can join my awesomeness team. I have a feeling you would fit in well.

  19. RoryBore
    February 21, 2012 | 1:27 pm

    good for you! I don’t know why some are so afraid of a woman speaking her mind. What – afraid we might be right? perfect quote and perfect response mama!

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 3:36 pm

      Thank you!
      I love that quote and I’m so not afraid of change. I’m afraid of idiots who make the decisions

  20. Bits of Bee
    February 21, 2012 | 3:55 pm

    Good for you for speaking up and standing your ground! I’m a believer in change too. Everything around us is constantly changing so I think in some ways we need to be willing to change as well. Thanks for linking up this week!

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 3:35 pm

      I really like your linky! I am a lover of quotes and am inspired often by them. Thank you for having such a wonderful idea.

  21. Cookie's Mom
    February 21, 2012 | 8:30 pm

    Yup. I always knew you were a boat rocker. Me too. As I have aged I have found ways to be more effective and less emotional during my soap box rants, but I too will always stand up for the little guy. Rock on, mama!

    • Cookie's Mom
      February 21, 2012 | 8:31 pm

      Oh, and butterflies rule!

      • multitaskingmumma
        February 24, 2012 | 3:32 pm

        Yes!!

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 3:33 pm

      I get very irritated with people who go with the flow and then rant behind closed doors; doing nothing to make change.
      I wish there were more people like you!

      • Cookie's Mom
        February 24, 2012 | 9:33 pm

        Thanks mumma! Back at-cha!

  22. Jennifer
    February 21, 2012 | 8:54 pm

    Good for you! Whomever came up with the expression, “Don’t rock the boat” was a real twit. I back you 100%. Always speak your truth.

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 3:30 pm

      It must have been someone who didn’t want to get into trouble by disagreeing.

  23. By Word of Mouth Musings
    February 21, 2012 | 10:41 pm

    made me think of this … and btw, you ‘rock on’

    “It only takes one smile to offer welcome…and blessed be the person who will share it.
    It only takes one moment to be helpful…and blessed be the person who will spare it.
    It only takes one joy to lift a spirit…and blessed be the person who will give it.
    It only takes one life to make a difference…and blessed be the person who will live it.”

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 3:29 pm

      thank you so much for that quote.
      I can’t tell you how much it means that you wrote that.

  24. Leigh Ann
    February 23, 2012 | 12:56 am

    You, my friend, are too strong to stand by and let others walk all over you. I can ony imagine you fuming as you listen to that crap.

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 11:39 am

      It was not enjoyable. Thank you for your sweet comment and for getting me

  25. Lisa
    February 23, 2012 | 9:30 am

    Good for you. I have to say that I am not good at rocking the boat. I don’t like to upset people or create conflict. I wish I was more like you.

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 11:38 am

      Theres reasons for both types of personalities being here. we need balance

  26. Sweaty
    February 24, 2012 | 3:01 am

    I am so, so proud of you, my dear friend! That’s the Leighann I know! You’re brave, fearless when it comes to things you really believe in. And that’s how it should be.

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 24, 2012 | 11:11 am

      Thank you so much!
      There are many people who become very uncomfortable when someone stands up for themselves and/or their convictions. That makes me fight even harder. It also makes me so concerned about the state of our world.

  27. Robin @ Farewell, Stranger
    February 28, 2012 | 9:31 pm

    Rock on, sister.

    • multitaskingmumma
      March 1, 2012 | 11:07 am

      thanks Robin!!

  28. Kimberly S. (Sperk*)
    March 1, 2012 | 6:27 pm

    You have a powerful voice! Very well articulated points and inspiring. Bookmarking this one.

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