There are many things that our social filters keep us from saying to one another, for most of us anyway… ahem. But for those of us struggling with mental illness we hear the same cliché lines daily and it doesn’t help us while we fight out silent battle.
You create your own happiness:
No, we don’t. We live in constant turmoil where we fight against lies our brain tells us; med dose changes, hallucinations, paranoia, insomnia, and a roller coaster of emotions. Our brain determines what our mood will be without our consent.
Fresh air will do you some good:
The fresh air is nice when it’s not making us feel guilty for feeling happy because feeling happy means that the crash will inevitably come soon. This is the game that our brain plays.
You just need exercise:
When your body feels drained, sad, and like there is no point in living, hearing someone tell you to exercise makes it worse. It’s true that exercise leads to a healthier brain but we have to get to a healthier place in order to begin making that decision for ourselves.
Suicide is selfish:
Feelings of suicide, worthlessness, sadness, and depression are not something we choose. These are tricks that our brain play on us and feelings that we feel without choice. We wade through this sadness fighting to stay out of the shadows and thoughts of suicide can be freeing. Support us, talk to us about our contributions, our family, and our friends. Don’t ignore what is going on and watch for signs that things might be getting worse.