Footloose and Fancy Free?

Part of the decision to not have anymore children has meant I’ve been thinking about going through our baby things, sorting, and giving away what I don’t want anymore.

I thought this would be an easy process.

I had no idea that mothers had been hiding secrets and the process is the devils work and mothers were lying out of their lying mouths and not telling how hard this would be.

My heart breaks into a million pieces every time I think about selling the crib my daughter slept in, or parting with the nursing pillow, or giving away the swing she pooped in every time we placed her in it (okay maybe no one will want that).

I have a memory attached to every item and have a little cry each time I touch an object I pull out.

Is this normal?

Don’t answer that.

I want to get rid of the clutter and begin to purge but my heart is screaming at me, yanking at my emotions, giving me panic attacks, causing me to wallow in my own self pity.

I didn’t expect this.

Is this another part of parenthood no one prepares you for?

Can I get a what, what?

All the mothers in the house… what was your experience when you started to purge your baby stuff? Did you feel footloose and fancy free or were you traumatized?

Help a sister out.

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4 Responses to Footloose and Fancy Free?
  1. Stef
    February 26, 2014 | 8:41 pm

    Footloose and Fancy Free over here Mumma! Adios headaches, crying, diapers, barfing nightly, no sleep… Adios! Done and done!
    Buuuuut there are a couple of my son’s fav items I’ll keep in a bin… and cherish the memories of feeding him in the night and the special bond of a mother amd newborn baby (I know your experience was so different) You will feel it when you are ready to purge… HELLO MONEY!!! People love to buy baby stuff! And rememember for one thing our kids were way over spoiled and secondly these are material items… you want to change your mind in time and try again… you can buy used or new all over! It doesn’t have to be final! Chin up lovely lady!

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 27, 2014 | 11:41 am

      You’re right, I can change my mind, nothing is permanent. I need to remember that.

  2. Farrah
    February 27, 2014 | 12:51 pm

    100% traumatized here.
    Our time came when we were packing to move over here. So many things to give away- give up, move on with. I cried over many, many things. It’s normal. If it’s not- I don’t want to BE normal 🙂 Remember, I cried on the HH episode. Those were real baby.

    One thing that really helped me- was that a) I gave most of the things to a friend who helped watch the boys- she just had her first baby in December. So she was future planning and I was thrilled that these items that meant so much went to a good home. So think about that option.

    Second, I donated many things to a battered women’s shelter in the area. Many times women and kids arrive in the middle of the night with nothing but the clothes on their backs. Knowing that even the simplest of things that I could give them- could offer maybe just 1 night of comfort in such a dark place- also makes the pain a little less stinging. xoxo.

    • multitaskingmumma
      February 27, 2014 | 2:55 pm

      OH MY HEART!!!!! I had never thought about donating to the women’s shelter! Thank you so much for that!! Thank you. I know where most of this stuff will go.

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