Now that we’ve made the decision not to have anymore children discussions surrounding babies, children, and pregnancy has become harder for other people than it is for me.
They still want me to reproduce.
Even though I can’t without the aid of medication, tracking, praying, standing on my head, jumping up and down, running in circles, etc.
They aren’t satisfied with “nope, we’re only having one.”
And I love the responses, don’t get me wrong… I know we naturally want to see people have more babies, it’s what we do.
But can’t “No” be good enough?
Here’s just a few of the answers I’ve heard to the question, will you have more?
1. You will, just wait.
Nope.. I won’t. There’s nothing going on in there friend… baby zone closed.
2. Just wait, now that you’re relaxed and not thinking about it it’ll happen.
I don’t want it to happen. I’m relaxed because I’ve accepted that it won’t happen and I’m okay with it. Be okay with it with me.
3. Whatever is meant to be will be.
It’s meant to be.My uterus says so.
4. It’ll happen when you least expect it.
I hope not… I’m hoping to not be pregnant at 50.
5. Don’t you want to give your daughter a sibling?
Yes, I did… but that ship has sailed and now I’m happy to even have one child.
So what should you say?
You can still say all of the above, I will love you times a million, and understand that this situation can be uncomfortable for many people. Or how about just accepting that we’re one and done.
And asking questions? That’s really okay too!
“oh, that’s great, how old is your daughter?”
“Is there a story behind why you only want to have one?”
“When did you decide you only wanted one child? Was it a hard decision?”
Get to know my story and I’ll get to know yours.
And know that no matter what you say I know it comes from a place of love.
And I love you right back.