The Parent/Teacher Interview

I waited outside of the room for my turn to meet with her teachers. I had a thousand questions about her progress and couldn’t focus on just one.

What did she do all day while I was at work?

How was her behaviour?

Was she learning at the right pace?

Did she pay attention?

Was she making friends?

Oh, that last one pulled on my heart-strings hard. I could feel my chest tighten as I pictured my little girl all alone while the other children played happily.

The vision stuck with me while I walked into the room and sat in the tiniest of tiny chairs at the kindergarten desk.

The teachers began by telling me what an exuberant child I had.

How kind and smart she was.

How well academically she is doing.

That she needed to remember to put her hand up on the carpet.

That she was a special girl.

And did I have any concerns?

All of the questions I had in the hallway flooded away and the only thing I could concentrate on was whether or not she had friends.

I explained, emotionally, that I had been bullied, I told the teachers that my biggest fear for my daughter was that she would suffer the same fate. I wanted her to choose her friends wisely, I wanted her to understand social cues, and I wanted her to move on to another group if one did not want to play with her. I explained that I understood her feelings were hurt easily and that worried me.

They shook their heads in agreement.

But then they reassured me that although she was a sensitive girl she was also an assertive one. A child who stands up for herself, who tells the people who hurt her feelings that they’ve done so, and who moves on easily to other groups when she’s been excluded from one.

They took away my concerns, for now, and reminded me that this is part of growing up. There will be days that aren’t so great. There are days where she will come home and her feelings will be hurt and I can’t save her from that. But I, in partnership with the teachers, can give her the tools to deal with it.

That’s what I wanted the most.

An independent, strong girl who can take on life’s challenges.

And I think she’s well on her way.

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2 Responses to The Parent/Teacher Interview
  1. Kimberly
    March 4, 2015 | 10:17 am

    I think she’s going to do just fine 🙂
    The kids are so hot n cold at this age. Last week this little girl told a “lie” that Chase kicked a kid’s boot over – oh the tragedy. So that kid didn’t want Chase to play with him. Well now they’re BFF’s this week.
    What you should be worried about is germs.
    THe poo flu.

  2. Mom
    March 7, 2015 | 3:21 pm

    She is doing just fine. Your experiences growing up have certainly molded you to be the best mother anyone could have. We are so proud of you.

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